JOYFUL GRATITUDE #105
Growing up as a child in Australia, I was fascinated by empty cicada shells, perfectly formed and dry, gripping onto trees, long after the cicada had pulled itself out of its cramped skin to take its new form.
That image came back to me while meditating yesterday. I feel like I am gripping the tree, white-knuckled, pushing against my edges, trying with all my might to crack the shell around me, to extricate myself from its tight grasp and be able to breathe and spread my wings.
On the surface it may seem like a quiet time in my life, a rare moment where I have very reduced working hours and can spend extra time to care for myself, rest and recover. However, inside me it is far from peaceful, I feel like I am being stretched further than I have been for a long time. Waves of emotion crash over me for seemingly no reason, I feel in turn sad, then anxious, then afraid, then restless and back again. I crave relief so deeply. I ache for clarity, for lightness, to feel better, more energetic, enthusiastic, happy…
I’m filling page after page in my journal, trying to get the swirling thoughts on paper, to see if I can make some sense out of them, as I know this has helped in the past. And in the midst of the rants and anxious complaints in my journal, the wise voice from somewhere deep inside comes out to tell me, again and again, to trust the process.
This is the transformation in preparation for the shedding of the skin, it cannot be rushed. I am exactly where I need to be. My job right now is to stop resisting, to let go of wanting things to be different, to practice accepting that I feel the way I feel and that it is OK.
What is there to be grateful about in all of this, you may ask. Well, I know deep down that every day that I lean in to the turmoil, rather than resisting it, brings me closer to coming out the other side, to breaking out of the tight shell.
This is obviously not easy for you but you tell it with such honesty and your approach to managing it is exemplary! Although a different struggle, in my personal experience, acceptance is key to bringing peace. Be kind to yourself!
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Thanks so much for your lovely words:) Acceptance is like a muscle I need to keep training every day, and as you say it’s important to be kind to myself when the going gets tough.
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Exactly as we are our own worst enemy…expecting too much of ourselves!
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‘Leaning In’ is a lovely post. Your analogy of emergence and the cicada is insightful. I could identify with many of your feelings. I. too, am a journaller. It does help. Thanks for visiting me over at my blog. I will be back to read more of your lovely posts.
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Thank you very much! Journalling is such a great tool to work through all those feelings and put things into perspective. So glad you dropped by and you are welcome anytime:-) Sending you greetings from cold cold Amsterdam!
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Interesting. I think we all go through similar. I hope you come out of this stronger.
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I hope so too:-) Thanks a lot for dropping by!
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